Womanizers and shy good guys, coquets, modest good girls and dangerous heartbreakers unite! Unite in your desire to turn the process of courting a woman into an art, to surprise your loved ones and make them happy, to show and share your love and affection for each other. Times change and we change alone with it. Man kissing a woman hand will look silly nowadays. The chances to see a guy kneeling in front of a girl to read her a poem are the same as to see a walking dinosaur. I could continue with: “if only today’s men …” but I won’t, at least not now. The relation should be a two side stream and I have to admit that a lot depends on us, women. Changing times is not a bad thing. The most important to remember that courting a woman involved right actions as well as words. It’s a very delicate mean of communication between loved ones. To be able to communicate effectively you have to learn your loved one’s preferences, his or hers “love’s” and “don’t love’s”. Let’s try to learn the right syntaxes (full stops, comas, exclamation and question marks) of this sophisticated yet so pleasant language.

Woman's view
We don’t like:
• Arrogant and self-involved men who wouldn’t stop demonstrate how unique they are. Every night to have to listen to their self-praising: friends wouldn’t survive without his support, women would go nuts without him being around and the world would collapse without such smart, brave and intelligent guy like him.
• Men who thinks it’s appropriate to invite you to his place after an hour of talking to you. In general the most common mistake is taking courting out of the courting process. Men tend to think that another indecent proposal will make a woman very excited and expect her to share his desire.
• Men who believe that sending a bottle of Champaign to a girls table will make her feel obliged.
• Men objectifying women at the first date. It makes you feel like you are being bought.
• Men with no imagination who would give you kitchen appliances as a present or typical bouquet of roses. It could be useful gifts but definitely not very romantic and inspiring.
• Men making cliché “you have beautiful hair” compliments. My hair is rather average but my voice… don’t you hear? And my eye lashes? I’m really proud of them. He might not be really attracted to me. Maybe he is just very shallow.
• Men looking at other girls in your presence, not to mention complementing them. It can kills whatever feelings you might have for this guy.
• Men who would not take your categorical “no” as an answer. We might act irrational sometimes but if I have repeated “no” thirty three times, then it is definitely a “no” and nothing else.
• Being manipulated. It’s a popular strategy for some men to start going out with another girl just to make you jealous. Some might be impressed by such behavior but I’m sure most of women would be very annoyed with it.

We like:
• Intelligent and attentive men who can listen as well can talk. Besides it important that man is genuinely interested in what we are saying and engage in conversation rather then pretend he is paying attention.
• Pleasant and warm words and when men notice something special about a woman that no one has noticed before. It’s important that he can appreciate it and find a way to express in a genuine way so it would not sound as another cliché compliment. When men praise a woman by saying that she is the most beautiful, intelligent, simply the best. It makes us feel very special and more confident.
• Cute little presents, especially when men use their imagination in choosing them and not just a dollar figure. These presents don’t have to be necessary durable things. It could be a remarkable moment like a song played by a band under my window or my portrait projected in the night skies.
• Surprises showing how much he is involved with you. For example, you go on a date and find out that he’s got tickets for your favorite group concert. “How did you do that? The tickets were sold out 2 months ago!” It makes you feel so good to know that your man is thinking about you and wants to make you happy.
• Good manners. It might sound cliché but women like being looked after: when men assist you from the car, open a door for you, ask if you feel cold and offering hid jacket before you even answer.
• When men carry us in their arms without being afraid to look silly.
• To read love and admiration in his smile, the way he looks at you, touches you. When talking about casual staff you can feel something that makes you tremble and gets you excited.
• When he remembers the important dates such as your birthday, when you met, first kiss and his first “I love you”. It is very moving to receive a small present yet with great meaning.
• To hear “I love you” again and again. We want men to say these words often without being afraid to look sentimental. However we should be in love with him as well. Men’s view

We don’t like:
• When girl’s eyes remind a calculator screen counting your “merits”: shoes, watch, mobile, type of car… and how much do you earn? How much? Is it per month or week? A day?! I love you already.
• Being compared with other men especially if they are better in something: “you should see Gans’ car! Alex is very intelligent and John is so funny!” if these guys are so good then why are you wasting time with me?
• To be a magician who can read other people’s mind. There must be some mystery in women but if after taking her to the rock concerts, giving her roses and buy martini for half a year you find out that she hates this music, roses considers a cliché and martini gives her a bad stomach it can be very confusing. So you ask her why she never mentioned it before. Maybe she was afraid to hurt your feelings? Well, she’s almost succeeded at the end.
• Being evaluated by her girlfriends. She just “happened” to come with her best friend and you feel like being auctioned. If she is so concerned with other people’s opinion then she must be having second thoughts and it is not a very good start of relationship.
• When ladies use “f” word. No matter if they are lady like or come as tough and rough it is still annoying to hear them speaking this language.
• When all they care about is to get married as soon as possible. It is better to take it easy and give us a chance to decide.
• Questions like: “what are your future plans? How do you see yourself in five years time?” it feels like going through employment interview.
• When there is a “close” friend who calls just to say “hello”. It is always hard to believe to and makes you feel like a spare option.

We love:
• To see in her eyes that I’m her hero, the best of all men alive. We can do absolutely everything for this woman.
• To feel strong and powerful and hear her saying it at least once a week just to confirm that she wouldn’t survive without me.
• To surprise. To see her reaction when a man comes unexpected and to check if there is someone else hiding in a closet. Surprises for us it is a way to show our individuality and prove that we are capable to do anything for her.
• To make something very special for her, for example a dinner in a beautiful boat or going on vacation to tropical paradise in the winter time.
• To impress with good knowledge and to be a little bit smarter and more intelligent then her and see her appreciating it. We can’t help it, that how we operate.
• To fight for a women and no matter how challenging it can be to achieve what we want. After all we are hunters deep inside. If she doesn’t notice a man we don’t give up and look for other ways to impress her: climbing into her window even if she lives on the third floor or swimming across the lake to get her that particular lily.
• To be a mucho man in her eyes: strong, passionate and a little rough… sometimes we get carried away though. It happens.
• To spoil her. Predictability and routine makes the relationship boring yet unexpected and somewhat irrational behavior can make your feel powerful. She wants an avocado at 3 in the morning – no problem, I will get it for you! Whatever you want, my daring. Here are some papaya and dates just in case.
• To know that you are will be the one she will come for help in a difficult situation. To feel encouraged dealing with her problems and hopefully finding a solution. When you are in love it usually works out just fine. So, supermen and shy erudite do you remember what we’ve started with? It looks like men and women have one thing in common – they want to be loved, appreciated, respected and the most important we should be able to find ways to show it to our loved ones.

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