What you should do to make him like you
You’ve seen him at last.
And he has noticed you.
You’re going out together for the first time.
What will it be like? What is going to happen after? If only it could be possible to know everything you need beforehand!
But how is it possible?
To be true, what you are going to do is not the simple task. But I’ll try to solve it. Will I succeed or not, it is up to you to decide.
The first thing you should do before you meet with your man is to get read of all the thoughts you have in your head – get rid of all of them, I insist! It is hard to do, it is true. But as the practice shows, the men mostly prefer clever women to those ones, who think too much. That is why it is better to start analyzing after your first date.
Don’t worry in any case. If the man standing in front of you cannot take his eyes of you, it doesn’t matter that you have some problems with your make-up or thee is a hole on your tights, but that you are just looking well. Keep on smiling. Forget your thoughts and bad mood. You should look relaxed and happy, but within the reasonable limits, otherwise he won’t get you in the right way. Don’t forget, he is also worried, and he may think that it is his appearance that made you laugh. He can get confused or offended. The men can also be tender and sensitive, and don’t be surprised with this fact. Does it make you afraid? There are different men: the ones seem to be hard, the others like to show off. Nobody is perfect. Take a detached view of him and accept that it looks funny. Just imagine that you are watching the show, performed by the good actor. Does it seem to be easier now? Don’t make any conclusions at once – it can turn out that he tried to attract your attention or it is just the sort of “defense reaction” for him. After a little while he will stop behaving this way. Those men, you see, they are like children sometimes!
So, the earthshaking moment of your meeting took place. Do you feel better now? Watch him and remember everything he does, in this case you won’t have too much time for speaking too much. By the way, it is already known that when there is no tension any more, we relax and start speaking too much and telling the things we can be ashamed for after, and then we blame ourselves for too much nonsense told.
I also advice you to pay attention to the words and actions of the person you like during the following dates. Pay more attention to his actions, as this is the evidence of how your relationship will develop after. So, let us start analyzing.
His behavior during your first date is very important. When you tell something, he asks you questions. You unwittingly tell him about your childhood, your family and friends. He enjoys giving comments; he jokes and watches you attentively. He also tells about himself with pleasure and you don’t even have to ask him about anything.
If everything is quite the other way, your conversation hangs fire, and you pause and feel uncomfortable, and he often takes the look at his watch or looks aside all the time, then alas. And if together with it he has an important meeting or urgently needs to drive to work, it is better to forget about him at once, or, as the saying goes, hope for the better but be ready for the worst.
There is one more interesting point. You must for sure have heard something of the kind of: “Would you like something else?” from the men. They say this more often by the end of your date. There is one more phrase: “Let us stay and chat for a little while, ok?” They can say that in lots of variations, but do you think it means the same thing? I can assure you, it does not. The first one is just so to say to honor the tradition of a polite person and is nothing but the cliché, pronounced as a rule indifferently. You, from your side, don’t make account of it and respond indifferently in your turn. As for the other one, the situation is more interesting. If the man asks you such a question, he is likely to hope for your positive answer, which is the expressive evidence of the fact, that he is interested in you and feels well by your side. If he didn’t kiss you after your first or second date, or he just kissed you on your cheek, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t like you. It is quite all the other way, he is serious about you, or maybe he is shy. But you in your turn shouldn’t wonder for long. Just kiss him yourself, if you want to. That’s not the problem, is it? He will even thank you for that.
You are wondering if he will phone or not. If he didn’t do that on the following day, it is not the reason for getting upset about it. You shouldn’t go to the bathroom with the phone in your hand and sleep holding it close to you, or watch it all the time with hope. Turn back to your everyday activities. If you cannot answer the phone right at the moment he calls you, he will call you back anyway, if he really needs to talk to you.
The men mostly phone before they intend to have one more date with you. They also need time to think everything over, especially if you made a god impression on them. I will even tell you more, if the man has serious intentions, he won’t phone you at once. And if you feel that he really likes you and you feel for each other, you can phone yourself or (what is even better) send him an SMS or an e-mail. If he doesn’t answer it in a couple of days, then it looks like there is no chance for you.
If he said “See you” or promised to call you, it doesn’t mean that it would be exactly like he said. He should say something of that kind when your first date is over. Don’t get upset or don’t blame yourself. You shouldn’t also think that he was not able to see what you really are or didn’t pay attention to your merits during your first date. He saw what he wanted to, and he doesn’t care about the rest. Do you really need such a person? I don’t think so. If saying “Bye!” to you he mentions the approximate date when would like to see you for the next time, you may be proud of yourself. I can say that it will be either during the following week after your first meeting or right on the day he mentioned.
So, you have already started, and everything is ok. It is wonderful. The further it goes, the more interesting it is going to be. To be continued.
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