The Ways Men Win Our Hearts: 9 Seduction Techniques
Once we decided to organize a hen party. Girls don’t need a lot: a cake, some fruit, and a bottle of martini. One word led to another, and finally we started talking about men or, to be more precise, about techniques they use to charm so naive women and the most effective of these techniques. Each of us told a couple of such occasions from her personal experience. Then we decided to make a small list. It turned out that we got even 9 items. We thought this list could be useful for someone else. Well, for example, for not swallowing the bait as we did in due time. Well…
1. The most widespread technique used almost by all men is a “Romantic conversation”. Five out of five of us had firsthand knowledge of this technique. It is very easy and everyone knows about it. Men use this technique because of a widespread stereotype “a woman fall in love through her ears”, so it means that it is necessary to talk. And now some “prince” is talking about something in a flowery style, and you’re listening to him and thinking: “He is so clever! He speaks so much and knows a lot!” At least, men count on that. But the stark realities of life show that only really clever and erudite people can count on that. The rest can be sure that they will see a listless look, stifled yawns, and nervous glances at watch and get a codename “pain in the neck”.
2. Do you believe in friendship between a man and a woman? I don’t know about you, but the majority of women tend to believe in it. We are somehow flattered at being friends with men. Maybe the reason is that we know deep in our hearts that our male friends are our potential or secret admirers. It’s been known for a long time that men try to make only beautiful or very beautiful female friends. Thereby, many of such “friends” simply sit on the fence, hoping that the main competitor will keep herself aloof. Women can well believe the illusion of friendship and gladly swallow the bait, which is called “pretend to be her friend”.
3. The technique “Cry on her shoulder”. A man tries to use a woman like a protectress. He complains to her about being so unhappy. His girlfriend broke up with him not long ago, his friends, parents and women in general don’t understand him, his wife humbles him, etc. At the same time he always remembers to note that he’s never met such understanding and support, as you give him. Probably, you are a unique woman! Many of us, forced by maternal instinct, try to help such a “drowning man”, and then they wonder how they managed to marry a loser! Fortunately, women have become more perspicacious and it is hard to pull their leg nowadays. And there is a certain category of people who simply avoid such complainants, because no one can help them: such people will find shortcomings even in the most favorable conditions and invent problems or create them by themselves even at the best state of things.
4. Those of us, to whom men dedicated poetry, sang songs and cited classics, had firsthand knowledge of the devastating technique “a real Romeo”. It is used in combination with soulful look and outer detachment (allegedly, he is not of this world…). It has an effect upon almost any woman, but not all men use it. The psychological basis of this technique is a natural aspiration for everything beautiful, inherent in people and exacerbated by romantic predilections of women. I remember lines from a song, dedicated to another woman, which made my heart fly away from my body and throw itself at the feet of a young bard: “The best songs are of unhappy love, the ones we compose for the chosen women…” I would like to be such a chosen woman! And each woman dreamed at least once in a lifetime that some passionate romantic would dedicate to her at least a small and worthless rhyme!
5. The technique “The life of the party” is not accessible for everyone. It is hard to play that role without having specific skills, but if you have such ability, you can use it freely for seduction of the fair sex. Psychology of women implies that a woman needs the one, whom everyone else wants. The higher the position of a man in a company or a society is, the higher the position of his woman is. That is why women like public men, whose words arouse attention, burst of laughter, positive emotions and respect. However, you shouldn’t go too far with this technique, too, because too much water drowned the miller. The unbridled life of the party risks becoming a jester of the party and exposing to public ridicule, while women will give preference to more modest men.
6. A “Master of life”. Dear girls, how wear we are! This technique was tested on all my friends, and none of them could resist it. Why? However you slice it, but female origin prevails in women. The only thing that really matters for us in this life is perpetuation of the species. But you should have a healthy gene pool and a fat purse in order to support your descendants. Men, who accuse us of mercenary spirit, are so wrong! We care for our common children but not for ourselves! And, of course, we swallow the “rich” bait. It is easy to play the role of a “master of life”. If you have two hundred bucks in your pocket, it will be easy to make proper semblance. We don’t buy into money, you know; we buy into image, a sense of confidence and stability, a reliable shoulder; we need someone to rely on not only by ourselves, but along with our descendants. Money is the best way to show your stability nowadays (along with flats, cars and other stuff).
7. We’ve decided to unite the techniques “A bad guy” and “A good guy” into a single technique. It is important to understand the difference in methods of influence on different “subjects” in both cases. The main principle is common for both techniques: speculate in differences. Good girls like “bad” boys and vice versa – bad girls like “good” buys. If a man can identify your type correctly, it won’t be difficult for him to influence you by an attractive opposition. Once I was taken as a bad girl and a man decided to use the given technique. Honestly speaking, I got to the core of the matter right away, but I liked the game: I was saying awful words, doing awful things, offering to try different nasty things in the process, and he was agreeing to all of it doubtingly and with a charming confusion and was “following me”. When we came at my place, I understood that something unplanned might happen, and I became a good girl very quickly. It was then when “a good boy” put his cards on the table: “Why would you pretend to be a good girl now?” I answered: “You’ve been pretending all night, so I decided you knew it was just a game.” I imagine his disappointment :)
8. Fans of detectives, mysticism, science fiction, stories about aliens and extraterrestrial civilizations will definitely appreciate the technique “Agent 007”. As you’ve probably already guessed, it meant so put on as much mysteriousness as possible, to omit some details, stop half-way through the sentence and lapse into mysterious silence. This technique is more suitable for using on new people in a company. If everyone knows you inside out in a company, it will be hard to become a mystery for them. But a new girl can be impressed by this technique. The most important thing here is to make your friends keep their mouth shut, because lack of information is crucial for creation of an air of mystery: nobody knows anything about him! In order to create an appropriate appearance use black clothes, three-day bristle, a smoked glasses and so on.
9. The technique “Spread rumors about yourself” is a direct opposite to the technique described above. People don’t speak about anybody and everybody. Only the most significant of us are honored with rumors; the ones who arouse general interest, envy or admiration by their judgments, deeds, etc. As you know, rumors spread, multiply and acquire details very quickly. Two girls from our company became victims of this technique more than once. Apparently, there is a certain type of women who strive for debunking or approving these rumors personally at all costs.
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