Many people believe that solid long relationships always lead to marriage but nowadays young people do not rush to start family and prefer to stay in civil marriage. According to one census result there are more married women than married men. It's simple. Women in civil marriages consider themselves to be married to their partners while the latter still consider themselves to be single.
Why should a man to assume this responsibility if he gets everything just the same? Meals are cooked, apartment is clean, and the costs are less, no obligation to provide for a woman or take her out to the restaurants. A wife still feels more confident due to her rights then a girlfriend who would think twice before opening her mouth. Does it sound comfortable? Sure, it does. And there is always a chance that a man might meet a love of his life. And while he is not bound by marriage obligations he has his freedom which, to be honest is much more difficult to maintain in marriage.
When a man tells this girlfriend that he is afraid of losing independence, that marriage will ruin their relationships, describes all sorts of horrors why he can’t marry her just yet, refers to the problems that have be solved first, and asks for the assurance of her love for him what does she do? Yeah, right, gave this assurance with a cute smile and very understanding look. She agrees to wait until winter and promises not to infringe on its independence while proving her love and devotion and finally falls into the trap. And what kind of love is this, if a man does not want to marry to his beloved one? I do not believe in “good reasons”. He just does not want to do it, that’s all. When men want to get married they do it without looking for excuses.
Often men are psychologically ready to take action but women stop them from do it by asking the same question again and again, “When will we get married?” Do not shock men with this question, give them a start, do not rush. Maybe your boyfriend is waiting for the right moment, for instance, some celebration to propose.
Unfortunately men with a negative marriage experience are not inclined to get married again. They cherish their freedom and prefer to wait till they find the one who will make them happy in marriage.
Often men are simply not ready for marriage living under mothers’ constant care and don’t want to become their own Masters. If a woman is ready to assume a full burden of responsibility for her choice and to replace his mother, then she must act decisively. Even if he hesitates, a woman should not let things take their course, because this way you run the risk of getting stuck at certain point in your relations. Sooner or later your man will become ready however any girl is capable of gently leading him towards this moment.
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