Successful flirtation requires openness, good mood, inner freedom, resoluteness and readiness to play with another man on equal terms. A man can’t be free if he doesn’t recognize freedom of another man. And people, who are not free, are not adapted for flirtation. Openness may not become apparent in outward appearance, but you are as strong as you can allow yourself being open. It doesn’t mean you must be open for everyone. But if you are reserved all the time, people will only communicate with you on issues relating to some functional problems. If you consider such way of communication to be more suitable, then continue behaving correspondingly.
Flirtation is similar to tennis – it is a two-person game, and if you stop “serving the ball”, you won’t get anything in response. Apart from all methods and techniques you should know how to give and get happiness: communicate with people who bring you joy, try to enjoy functional communication and give joy to people around you. You shouldn’t do it as a must, but if you constantly practise such approach, you will surely see the results soon.
A game creates ample opportunities, but it is better to play with a person who is disposed towards it. Not all people are capable of playing or even discerning a game. If you want to really enjoy a game, you should find people with whom you can play. You shouldn’t create situations when you are playing but a man does not quite understand that. In this case you simply mislead him and can harm both of you. And a game should bring joy to both partners (at least as a process). Don’t waste your time and efforts on doing something that doesn’t arouse mutual interest.
If both of you consciously play the same game, it will be easier to part without reproaches and unnecessary questions when it ends. But if you play different games, at least one of you will be very disappointed. Different people have different communication styles, so you can play different games with different people. You can play games, which are suitable exactly for you and which make you feel comfortable. But you should take into account that if you don’t try something new, you won’t open new opportunities for you. You can play any game only if you clearly know scopes and goals of this game. You shouldn’t be afraid of losing, because you always have an opportunity to start a new round.
Sometimes, when you flirt, straight and open actions are more effective than any complicated techniques. We got used to wearing “masks”, using double meaning, playing certain social roles, etc. that is why when a man does something really openly, it is notable and has a great effect. Peculiarity of this game is your ability and lack of fear to be open. Of course, you shouldn’t completely give yourself away. Show yourself as a live person; open some small secret and a funny weakness. There is no sense in pretending to be someone else, while you are flirting, because you don’t promise anything.
It is not necessary to offer your own games, because it is often enough to understand what games your partner likes in order to play along with him. You should also take into account that there is no such notion as “defense” in flirtation. If you defend yourself, most probably, the game is already over or it is not flirtation. Play until you both take it as a game.
An art of flirtation is in an ability to create such kind of context, which allows you to come to another kind of context or another state easily and without loss of sense.
I was asked once: “Is it possible to save a dying relationship by means of flirtation?” It is sad, but there are a lot of reasons for worsening of a relationship. And sometimes a relationship dies because people stop giving each other so significant feelings. In this case flirtation may solve this problem: give a man new sensations, the feelings he really needs, and he won’t lose interest in you.